Podcast

What do the Spice Girls and BDSM have in common?

The Spice Girls proudly proclaimed “Tell me what you want, what you really, really want” and in BDSM and kink we need to do that with our partner(s). But sometimes we get shy or fear rejection if we share what we really, really want, forgetting that fetishes, fantasies and all things kinktastic are shared by thousands, even if they are only spoken about in dark corners and hushed tones.

The new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast sheds light on not so forbidden fantasies. Sharing just how common what we call uncommon actually is. After listening, you might wonder which of your coworkers is kinky too.

My story began with an ancient Roman historian, hunger pangs, a taco craving, and a healthy dose of naivety. Then came the moment I ran into a professor at what seemed like the wrong place (a porn store) at the wrong time. As if there is ever a good time to see a professor in a porn shop, color me mortified.

No matter how hard you scroll, these posts keep finding you. It seems every day there is a flood of posts about bad dominants, and these are often well deserved and highlight genuine red flags.

But what happens when it is not a red flag but a green flag spray-painted red?

Are they a bad dominant because they asserted their boundaries?

What if they excused themselves from a toxic situation?