No matter how hard you scroll, these posts keep finding you. It seems every day there is a flood of posts about bad dominants, and these are often well deserved and highlight genuine red flags.
But what happens when it is not a red flag but a green flag spray-painted red?
Are they a bad dominant because they asserted their boundaries?
What if they excused themselves from a toxic situation?
In Defense of Dominants Read More »
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How does a flaming car connect to BDSM vetting, D/S, and kink? What happens when you focus so much on
Automobile Flambé – My BDSM Vetting Disaster Read More »
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So there was this guy who knew that lemon juice could be used to make invisible ink and had mastered the process. He then decided to rob a bank. Knowing that lemon juice made his ink invisible, he covered his face with lemon juice thinking the security camera would not see them. They even smiled at the camera, thinking himself invisible. Needless to say he was caught in a few hours.
What does this have to do with BDSM?
More than you might think.
The Great BDSM Bank Heist Is LIVE! Read More »
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This episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper is personal.
A recent family emergency brought forward a challenge to my identity as a dominant. According to some, my actions mean I am not a “true” dominant. In this episode, I explain what happened, explore why rigid definitions can be more harmful than helpful, and discuss how there are moments in every D/S relationship when the focus must shift to partnership rather than roles. This is a reflective and provocative conversation about leadership, care, and the reality of living this lifestyle.
Am I Still A Dominant? Read More »
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What really happens when a dominant says they are punishing their submissive? My new podcast episode takes a provocative look
Stop The Punishing Read More »
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Recently I asked you, the listeners, to ask your questions about BDSM, D/S, and kink and the variety and scope of the questions are amazing. The questions cover so much ground, from navigating ethical gray areas, how to talk with an uptight partner about getting kinky, or handle laughter mid-scene plus some dared ask those questions people think but rarely ask! So put on those earbuds, pull up a chair, get comfy, and press play on the first of a two part episode dedicated your questions!
Podcast: The Mailbag Strikes Back! (Part One) Read More »
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Think jealousy is a weakness or a sign of insecurity?
Stop burying your head in the sand! It is a valid human emotion, a sign of deep caring, and happens in BDSM, kink and all lifestyles.
It can actually make your bond STRONGER!
This new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast explores this powerful emotion in The Jealousy Journey.
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Join me for an exploration of the real-world challenges of moving from online chatting and fantasy to genuine, in-person lifestyle commitment. I share my own journey through the challenges, fears, and unexpected rewards of living D/S in real life. No matter where you are in your D/S journey, you will gain real-world insight that will strengthen authentic connections for moving off screens and into real life.
When The Screen Fades Read More »
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