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Fetish Friday: Hypnosis

Leave a Comment / BDSM, Fetish Friday / Edward Volkl / 06/20/2025

Hypnosis, an ancient practice rooted in the manipulation of consciousness and suggestion, has a rich history spanning centuries. From ancient civilizations to modern psychology, hypnosis has intrigued and captivated individuals seeking to explore the depths of the human mind. In recent years, hypnosis has found a place within BDSM, offering a unique avenue for psychological exploration, power exchange, and sexual enhancement.

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The Alpha Myth

Leave a Comment / BDSM / Edward Volkl / 06/16/2025

The alpha male trope has stubbornly clung to pop culture, surviving everything from bad dating advice to social media soundbites. It has crept into BDSM spaces, where loud posturing or overconfidence can be mistaken for confidence. Many mistake exaggerated posturing, cockiness, and emotional detachment for strength, especially when dominance is involved. That confusion creates a warped picture of what ethical BDSM actually requires. It is important to reassess the alpha myth and show why it simply does not belong in any serious or respectful D/S dynamic.

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Fetish Friday: Sensory Deprivation

Leave a Comment / BDSM, Fetish Friday / Edward Volkl / 06/13/2025

The world fades into darkness, and every sound becomes amplified. A soft breath, a light touch, a whisper feels sharper, more intense. Sensory deprivation involves removing or limiting sight, sound, or both through tools like blindfolds, earmuffs, or blackout hoods. Without these senses, anticipation, focus, and heightened awareness become more pronounced. Sensory deprivation creates a powerful shift in perception, an emotional and psychological experience that can be both thrilling and deeply immersive.

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Blocking And Deleting

Leave a Comment / BDSM / Edward Volkl / 06/09/2025

Online BDSM spaces can be brilliant, full of insight, support, and connection, but they are not immune to nonsense. Harassment, derailment, privacy violations, and unsolicited messages can turn a helpful thread into a mess in minutes. Blocking and deleting are not signs of fragility, an inability to handle discussion or those with a differing view; they are smart filters for keeping a space functional, focused, and worth returning to. These actions protect your boundaries, prevent burnout, and stop drama from taking up permanent residence in your feed. No one is owed your time or attention, and filtering out what drains or disrespects you is not wrong, rather it is healthy and self-preserving.

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Fetish Friday: Masks

Leave a Comment / BDSM, Fetish Friday / Edward Volkl / 06/06/2025

This week, Fetish Friday is in disguise as it explores masks, not as party props but as erotic catalysts. These items have long moved beyond the category of costume and into something far more charged. Something is enduring about concealment that invites a strange kind of liberation, one that continues to entice and unsettle. Erotic freedom often begins where identity blurs and masks offer just the right invitation.

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Consent: Mastering FRIES

Leave a Comment / BDSM / Edward Volkl / 06/02/2025

Consent is one of those subjects that seems like it should be a no-brainer, especially in and around BDSM but data from the National Coalition For Sexual Freedom reports over 25% of people have had their consent violated in the community.* With consent so basic and expected in BDSM, join me in discussing consent, FRIES (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific) and endeavor to drastically reduce the number of consent violations.

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Fetish Friday: Restraints and Bondage

Leave a Comment / BDSM, Fetish Friday / Edward Volkl / 05/30/2025

The image of a person bound, arms secured above their head, wrists encircled by rope, or ankles fastened to a post, evokes a visceral reaction. For some, it calls to mind a kinktastic experience or for others, it awakens desire, curiosity, or a desire to explore. Within BDSM, restraint occupies a central place. It is not merely about limiting physical freedom. It is about creating intention, exploring trust, and altering power through form and focus. To understand why restraint is so captivating, one must look not only to the present but to its long, layered history.

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Podcast: The Mailbag Strikes Back! (Part One)

Leave a Comment / BDSM, Podcast / Edward Volkl / 05/27/2025

Recently I asked you, the listeners, to ask your questions about BDSM, D/S, and kink and the variety and scope of the questions are amazing. The questions cover so much ground, from navigating ethical gray areas, how to talk with an uptight partner about getting kinky, or handle laughter mid-scene plus some dared ask those questions people think but rarely ask! So put on those earbuds, pull up a chair, get comfy, and press play on the first of a two part episode dedicated your questions!

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Collar Care

Leave a Comment / BDSM / Edward Volkl / 05/26/2025

Collars are not merely accessories in BDSM dynamics. They represent commitment, trust, and the unique bond shared between a dominant and a submissive. For those in 24/7 dynamics, a collar can be as meaningful as a wedding ring. It is a constant reminder of the roles, responsibilities, and affection that define the relationship. Given its importance, proper care and maintenance are essential. Just as one would not neglect a treasured piece of jewelry, a collar should receive consistent and thoughtful attention.

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