Choice
Choice Submission is a choice, not an obligation.If it is not freely given, it is not submission.No fantasy, no title, […]
The Jealousy Journey
Think jealousy is a weakness or a sign of insecurity?
Stop burying your head in the sand! It is a valid human emotion, a sign of deep caring, and happens in BDSM, kink and all lifestyles.
It can actually make your bond STRONGER!
This new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast explores this powerful emotion in The Jealousy Journey.
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BDSM, Podcast
Experience Levels
In BDSM relationships, experience levels between partners can influence the dynamic in significant ways. A recent poll of my followers revealed that 68% are new to the lifestyle, while 49% would not consider a partner unless they were of intermediate experience level or higher. This creates a clear divide, with some newer individuals seeking experienced partners for guidance, while others prefer to avoid relationships where there is a significant experience gap. It is valid for individuals to seek partners with similar or greater experience, as differing levels can bring challenges such as misunderstandings or mismatched expectations. Not only that but those new to the lifestyle are often at risk of exploitation, as scammers may target less experienced individuals looking for guidance. Despite these challenges, partners can navigate the experience gap and build successful connections. So it is now time to answer Jimmi Hendrix’s famous question “Are you experienced?” and see how it can matter in BDSM.
Fetish Friday: Bastinado
Bastinado, the practice of striking the soles of the feet, holds a distinct and intimate place in BDSM. Unlike other forms of impact play, it focuses on a body part that is both physically sensitive and symbolically rich. Within kink, bastinado offers a combination of pain, control, ritual, and eroticism that many find deeply satisfying. Yet the roots of bastinado extend far beyond modern fetish scenes. They stretch through ancient punishment rituals, imperial discipline, and centuries of power and resistance across multiple cultures.
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BDSM, Fetish Friday
Hollow Commands
Hollow Commands They speak of dominance yet flinch at true strength,fearing submissives who stand without fear.They want obedience wrapped in
Dominance, Not Dependence
Too many cling to the tired idea that dominance is about barking orders and expecting immediate compliance, as though authority in D/S means nothing more than bossing around a submissive’s every move. That version is not only dull, it misses the entire point. Dominance does not breed dependence. It does not stunt confidence. It does not thrive on someone shrinking. It builds, it sharpens, and it strengthens. The role of a dominant is not to suppress someone into stillness. It is to elevate them into something bolder, sharper, and more capable than they were before.
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BDSM
Fetish Friday: Objectification
Welcome to Fetish Friday and while not every topic chatted about here might be the object of your desires, this week it is at least, well an object as we explore objectification. Objectification is a unique aspect of BDSM that involves treating a person as an object or instrument for sexual gratification. While objectification has a long history within human sexuality, its exploration within the context of BDSM has given rise to a diverse range of kinks and practices. Throughout this exploration, the historical roots of objectification in fetishism will be uncovered, alongside an examination of various prevalent kinks and their appeal to individuals within the BDSM community.
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BDSM, Fetish Friday
When The Screen Fades
Join me for an exploration of the real-world challenges of moving from online chatting and fantasy to genuine, in-person lifestyle commitment. I share my own journey through the challenges, fears, and unexpected rewards of living D/S in real life. No matter where you are in your D/S journey, you will gain real-world insight that will strengthen authentic connections for moving off screens and into real life.
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BDSM, Podcast