Edward Volkl

Coffee Aficionado, Podcaster, Poet, Writer, Advocate Of Everything Kinktastic & Sharing My Passion In A Positive, Uplifting Space.

Monday Minute - Defining Dominance A woman in a mask with a red background.

Monday Minute Defining Dominance

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This morning, bumbling around the internet waiting for a conference call to start led to discovering a blog post that had fifteen steps to becoming a dominant. It had advice like never take “no” for an answer ever. Can you imagine a date with this person who never takes no for an answer? Ick and DANGER! The post dragged on while creating a challenge.

How do you define dominance? Perhaps the simple, quick answer is leadership, but what does that mean? So the challenge today was setting a limit of ten rapid ideas to define leadership, in D/S.

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Wordsmith Wednesday - Quiet Exit. Lady Justice wrapped in barbed wire.

Quiet Exit

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Quiet Exit

They Came In The Morning, Long Before Light Touched The Fences,
Boots On Gravel, Loud But Somehow Hollow In Meaning.
A Mother Folded Her Child’s Jacket Without A Word,
The Silence Around Her Louder Than The Men In Uniform.
The Law Said Wait, The Law Said Process, But No One Stayed For It.
Even Mercy Wore A Badge And Refused To Meet Her Eyes.

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Monday Minute – Ten Lessons Learned

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No matter what it is in life, as we gain experience with something, there are lessons we learned along the way. Sometimes those little lessons that are acquired by experience, people keep inside and do not always share as though they are a secret or a bit of knowledge they feel must be learned the hard way, as they have learned them. Thinking back on some of the things discovered on my journey in D/S, some challenges could have been or should have been talked about rather than discovered. D/S is not a place where educational experiences should be withheld like a state secret. So with that in mind, here are ten thoughts to assist those who are newer or perhaps even give food for thought to the more experienced:

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Wordsmith Wednesday- Unfriendly Things. A riot fence with a fire burning.

Ashes on the Pavement

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Unfriendly Things

I wrote unfriendly things on diner napkins, left them where delusionists might find them.
The waitress asked if I wanted cream, but her voice cracked like morning ice.
On the TV, a senator blinked slow, mouthing rage that did not match the script.
I sipped the coffee, bitter as headlines, and stared at my reflection in the spoon.
Truth is, I hoped someone would read it and feel their throat tighten.

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Monday Minute: Pornish Perceptions

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The influence of porn on our perceptions of sex is undeniable, and in D/S, it is no exception. This is not to say that adult films are a “bad thing” because it is not even when they give us unreasonable expectations of how long it takes a plumber to arrive at our house. Additionally, it creates a world that is easy to be swept away by the allure of unrealistic expectations regarding the dynamics of D/S relationships. Today, we will look into how pornography has contributed to unrealistic expectations within the lifestyle, why fantasies do not always translate seamlessly into reality, and how individuals can navigate this divide for more fulfilling and authentic intimate experiences.

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Fetish Friday: Rope

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Rope bondage, an intricate and captivating art form intertwined with the fabric of human history, has emerged as a cornerstone of BDSM practices. Its origins trace back centuries, transcending cultures and continents, weaving through diverse societies with varying customs and rituals. From ancient Japanese traditions to modern Western interpretations, the allure of rope in BDSM is as diverse as the individuals who engage in it.

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