Are you in the mood for a kinktastic movie? Maybe a binge night of lifestyle related films? Here is a list of twenty-seven movies that are worth a watch along with what they get right about BDSM, what it forgets about or romanticized, and why it is worth watching:
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A few weeks back, Fetish Friday looked at the numbers, and one statistic practically leapt off the screen: 47 percent
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learn early how to carry yourself like nothing touches you,
as if the cracked sidewalks and secondhand talk do not stick,
as if being seen at the wrong time with the wrong face
is not just another way of being asked to leave without being told.
A sense of unease is impossible to ignore once it arrives. You meet someone in the community, ask questions, check references, and everything looks fine. Still, something twists in your stomach, subtle but persistent. It might be a pause in conversation, a small contradiction, or a feeling that the energy just does not match. That knot warns of what logic cannot see, yet it is easy to dismiss. Ignoring it can leave you uncomfortable, regretting choices, or doubting yourself. Paying attention to what your instincts are signaling helps spot hidden warning signs. Learning to read those feelings can protect well-being and guide interactions with clarity.
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BDSM, Monday Minute
Last week’s Fetish Friday dove into the numbers, and one statistic kept jumping out. Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s research found that 95 percent of men and 87 percent of women have fantasized about sex involving multiple partners. When nearly everyone has imagined this at some point, the question becomes: what makes this fantasy so compelling, where does it show up throughout history, and why does it hold such power in fantasies today.
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He did not do it, but that was never the point,
not when the badge needed a body and the town needed quiet.
The facts were thin, but the headlines were thick,
and they printed guilt before the jury had time to blink.
The train passed through once, slow as apology,
then was gone, like the promises made after sentencing.
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Poetry
My story began with an ancient Roman historian, hunger pangs, a taco craving, and a healthy dose of naivety. Then came the moment I ran into a professor at what seemed like the wrong place (a porn store) at the wrong time. As if there is ever a good time to see a professor in a porn shop, color me mortified.
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BDSM, Podcast
People with ADHD experience D/S relationships in ways that can bring both challenges and surprises. Sometimes it is hard to focus, keep track of agreements, or stay on the same page. But ADHD also brings creativity, intensity, and fresh ways of connecting that can make partnerships feel more alive. As someone who navigates the challenges and joys of ADHD in a D/S partnership, I have learned a lot about how these two worlds connect. Knowing what to expect and how to work with these ups and downs can help make relationships honest, flexible, and real. Whether you have ADHD, care about someone who does, or just want to understand more, this can help.
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BDSM, Monday Minute
Welcome back to another Fetish Friday, where the statistics tell stories that most people never hear whispered in polite conversation, and where the numbers reveal that human sexuality contains far more variety than anyone might guess from everyday interactions. This week takes a different approach by exploring an array of surprising facts about fetishes, kinks, and desires that research has uncovered over the years. The data challenges assumptions, reveals unexpected patterns, and paints a picture of sexuality that extends far beyond what mainstream culture typically acknowledges. So settle in somewhere comfortable, pour something delicious to sip, and prepare to discover that the intimate lives people lead behind closed doors are both more common and more diverse than most would ever imagine.
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