Edward Volkl

Coffee Aficionado, Podcaster, Poet, Writer, Advocate Of Everything Kinktastic & Sharing My Passion In A Positive, Uplifting Space.

Trust Your Gut in BDSM - The words Trust Your Instincts on a sticky note

Trust Your Gut in BDSM

A sense of unease is impossible to ignore once it arrives. You meet someone in the community, ask questions, check references, and everything looks fine. Still, something twists in your stomach, subtle but persistent. It might be a pause in conversation, a small contradiction, or a feeling that the energy just does not match. That knot warns of what logic cannot see, yet it is easy to dismiss. Ignoring it can leave you uncomfortable, regretting choices, or doubting yourself. Paying attention to what your instincts are signaling helps spot hidden warning signs. Learning to read those feelings can protect well-being and guide interactions with clarity.

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Why Threesomes, Foursomes, and Group Sex Is So Cumpelling - Three pairs of feet under a blanket.

Why Threesomes, Foursomes, and Group Sex Is So Compelling

Last week’s Fetish Friday dove into the numbers, and one statistic kept jumping out. Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s research found that 95 percent of men and 87 percent of women have fantasized about sex involving multiple partners. When nearly everyone has imagined this at some point, the question becomes: what makes this fantasy so compelling, where does it show up throughout history, and why does it hold such power in fantasies today.

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ADHD in D/S: Challenges and Solutions

People with ADHD experience D/S relationships in ways that can bring both challenges and surprises. Sometimes it is hard to focus, keep track of agreements, or stay on the same page. But ADHD also brings creativity, intensity, and fresh ways of connecting that can make partnerships feel more alive. As someone who navigates the challenges and joys of ADHD in a D/S partnership, I have learned a lot about how these two worlds connect. Knowing what to expect and how to work with these ups and downs can help make relationships honest, flexible, and real. Whether you have ADHD, care about someone who does, or just want to understand more, this can help.

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Fun Fetish Facts: What the Statistics Actually Say

Welcome back to another Fetish Friday, where the statistics tell stories that most people never hear whispered in polite conversation, and where the numbers reveal that human sexuality contains far more variety than anyone might guess from everyday interactions. This week takes a different approach by exploring an array of surprising facts about fetishes, kinks, and desires that research has uncovered over the years. The data challenges assumptions, reveals unexpected patterns, and paints a picture of sexuality that extends far beyond what mainstream culture typically acknowledges. So settle in somewhere comfortable, pour something delicious to sip, and prepare to discover that the intimate lives people lead behind closed doors are both more common and more diverse than most would ever imagine.

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