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Ethical D/S: Not What the Movies Taught You

Ethical D/S: Not What the Movies Taught You

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The movies have been feeding everyone a load of nonsense about dominance for decades. Hollywood needs drama that translates on screen, so they give us dominants who yell and posture and treat every interaction like a power struggle that must be won through sheer intimidation. It makes for entertaining viewing when someone is eating popcorn on the couch, but it has nothing to do with how D/S actually functions when people are living it day to day. Dominance in practice looks absolutely nothing like the theatrical production designed to sell tickets.

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Edmund Fitzgerald

The Lighthouses Remember

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The Edmund Fitzgerald was an ore freighter, the biggest on the lakes when she launched,
She knew it too, you could tell by the way she sailed herself, queen of these inland seas,
Blasting music from her loudspeakers like a floating dance party, melody echoing off the water,
She broke records, carried more iron ore than anyone thought possible, twenty-six thousand tons
Like it was nothing, she was a celebrity, people would line the shores just to watch her pass,
This seven-hundred-twenty-nine-foot movie star making the hard work look like joy.

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Why Do People Have Fetishes? The Science Behind Them

Why Do People Have Fetishes? The Science Behind Them

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Why do some people get turned on by leather while others could not care less? Why does the sight of a specific type of shoe send one person’s pulse racing while leaving another completely unmoved?

It sounds like a weird question, but the answer is less mysterious than you might think. Fetishism refers to sexual arousal that is strongly linked to a specific object, material, body part, or scenario. When practiced consensually and without causing distress, it is part of the normal spectrum of human sexual expression. Within kink-aware communities, fetishes are just natural variations in how people experience desire. The real question is not whether fetishes are normal. The question is how they develop in the first place.

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I Choose You - A couple walking in fall along a leaf covered trail.

I Choose You

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I Choose You

Some people say I want you and they mean the sweat, the bite, the bruise left on skin.
They mean three in the morning with clothes on the floor and nothing else mattering at all.
Want is good, want is the blood rushing hot, want is what makes us reach across the dark.
But want burns through everything fast and when the body is satisfied it forgets why it came.
Want does not care about your name, only that you are there when the craving hits.

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How to Keep Your D/S Relationship Strong When Life Gets Chaotic - Busy urban street at night

How to Keep Your D/S Relationship Strong When Life Gets Chaotic

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Life rarely slows down. Work piles up, errands take longer than expected, the kids need to be driven to practice, Halloween costumes and candy need to be bought, the lovely in-laws are coming over on Sunday, and the holidays are just around the corner. Ugh, life is a never-ending box of exhausting chocolates, and the constant demands of daily life can make even small moments of D/S feel impossible, sometimes making the relationship feel distant. Finding ways to maintain the lifestyle connection under these circumstances can seem overwhelming, but it can be managed.

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