June 2025

Blocking and Deleting: Man in sunglasses holding his hand in a blocking position.

Blocking And Deleting

Online BDSM spaces can be brilliant, full of insight, support, and connection, but they are not immune to nonsense. Harassment, derailment, privacy violations, and unsolicited messages can turn a helpful thread into a mess in minutes. Blocking and deleting are not signs of fragility, an inability to handle discussion or those with a differing view; they are smart filters for keeping a space functional, focused, and worth returning to. These actions protect your boundaries, prevent burnout, and stop drama from taking up permanent residence in your feed. No one is owed your time or attention, and filtering out what drains or disrespects you is not wrong, rather it is healthy and self-preserving.

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Fetish Friday: Masks - A woman wearing a mask in a darkened room, red background.

Fetish Friday: Masks

This week, Fetish Friday is in disguise as it explores masks, not as party props but as erotic catalysts. These items have long moved beyond the category of costume and into something far more charged. Something is enduring about concealment that invites a strange kind of liberation, one that continues to entice and unsettle. Erotic freedom often begins where identity blurs and masks offer just the right invitation.

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Consent: The word consent spelled on wooden blocks with coins and pens.

Consent: Mastering FRIES

Consent is one of those subjects that seems like it should be a no-brainer, especially in and around BDSM but data from the National Coalition For Sexual Freedom reports over 25% of people have had their consent violated in the community.* With consent so basic and expected in BDSM, join me in discussing consent, FRIES (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific) and endeavor to drastically reduce the number of consent violations.

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